Support Yourself and Perform at your Best
We are all aware of people who seem to have it all yet are fundamentally unhappy. I recently read about an entrepreneur worth £100M who was miserable because he spent his life comparing himself with people who were worth £200M, £300M etc.
There was an article recently in a Sunday supplement that basically said many women spend their lives comparing themselves with other women they deem to be more attractive than themselves.
While it could be argued that this type of thinking can spur an individual to reach ever higher levels of ‘success’, I take a different view. If your thinking doesn’t support you, then you are possibly only performing at 60-70% of your optimum.
In an effort to keep fit I go to the gym at 6.30 a.m. most mornings. The light is quite low as it enters the windows at that time of day and where I exercise there is a corner with two mirrors on. In one mirror I look tired and haggard, in the other I look ok, so which do you think I choose to work out in front of? I choose the one where I look normal.
Why do I choose to do that? Well, as an ethical and professional coach I believe it is my duty to ensure I am at my optimum when working with my clients. Many have high profile roles and my work impacts them individually and also their stakeholders as their behaviour cascades through the system. It’s my responsibility to take care of and support myself be the best I can be so I am fully resourced and available for my clients, not worn down by negative patterns of thinking and behaviour.
Unfortunately, I meet some coaching clients who are worn out, tired and stressed. On investigation there are many contextual reasons for this however in my experience it’s often the case they choose not to, or don’t know how to support themselves or take support from the environment.
To me this is fuzzy thinking that doesn’t enable optimum performance. Your number one performance (and life) tool is yourself, if you don’t actively support yourself, how can you support others? If you are operating at 70% of your potential how does that help you or your stakeholders? I believe artists, managers and executives need to learn to nurture and take care of themselves in order to support others and have more fulfilling lives.
So the next time you find yourself running yourself down, engaging in non-supportive thinking and actions or comparing yourself against people far more successful (sadly they will always exist), stop and ask yourself, how does this support me at a personal level and also within my responsibility to perform to the best of my ability?
Naturally, engaging a coach is a fantastic way to both support and challenge yourself and your thinking so enabling a positive path to achieving your true potential. Learning to support yourself might also give you the edge over the competition and enable you to function at 100% while achieving some form of work/life balance. So, which mirror are you going to look into……?